What are the tips and tricks to successfully potty train a 3 year old non-verbal autistic girl?

Emalemaline
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      ktisme
      50

      I’m not experienced with this scenario. I know that my kids did better when I described my experience (or how I imagined their experience might be): the potty is cold. I’m not used to using the bathroom for myself. I am learning to use my muscles to control my pee/poo. I am learning to listen to my body and respect the needs of my body to let go of what it’s done with. Taking time to go potty is an interruption. I don’t always want to stop, but taking care of my body in a timely way is important. As soon as I can, I want to only put pee or poo in the toilet. I might struggle, and I can practice and improve. I’m not stuck. This is new and uncomfortable and I’m not alone. I hear noises after I… Etc.

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        mamaenjoyslife
        110

        I would wait till at least 4 years old. Children do better when they are ready! Since your girl already has a lot going on, I wouldn’t try to add in a new thing that’s so much of a change until she’s older. My kids aren’t autistic or non-verbal & they did much better when I let them decide when they were ready. Although she may not be able to decide when she’s ready, as someone who is already working harder at life, she will likely do better when a bit older 💜

        • jujubee
          140

          I had a non-verbal toddler and I tried to potty train him before he was ready because everyone else told me I should. If you try and things aren’t going well, it’s okay to stop and try again in a few months. Make it a very no pressure situation. You may also see success with going pee, but then they will refuse to poop on the potty. There was a year gap between my son going pee all by himself and when he finally went poop by himself. We ended up offering a brownie bite every time he went poop on the potty. I have zero regrets. 😄

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