What are some of the expert parenting resources that you love?

It could be a podcast, a website, a great book, an online course, you name it. Please link if possible and tell us what makes it so great for you.

    7 answers

    • EMucha
      3853Top answer

      I just heard about this awesome new site: btfl.co

      • jon—can i triple heart this one? ❤️❤️❤️
    • rachel
      8302

      My favorite resource is Dr. Becky at The Good Inside. The basic idea of her philosophy is that every kid is good inside, and just needs the right tools to process the complicated emotions they experience (just like we all do really).

      She has a great podcast and instagram account, but the resource I’ve absolutely loved from her is her two part course/workshop on Deeply Feeling Kids (DFKs as she calls them). That course has been a game changer for me in helping me support my kids when they are experiencing emotions (anger, sadness, frustration, anything) really intensely. The advice to take my DFK from a large space into a small space and just sit with them (not saying anything) as they process the emotion is gold.

      “I am bringing you to your room. You’re not in trouble. You’re a good kid having a hard time and I’m going to stay with you.”

      Oh, and her advice not to say anything during these huge outbursts, yes, so much yes. My job is to contain and not to extinguish the fire. Game changer.

      She has a ton of other great workshops, but that workshop in particular has been so powerful. And her instagram account is also amazing for small bites of really great advice.

      https://www.goodinside.com/workshops/

      • courtcarp—I love her podcast! My kids are all deep feeling kids. ❤️
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      sarahs
      2402

      I agree 1,000,000% about Dr. Becky Good Inside! I love the podcast, emails, and courses.
      Since Rachel already gave an awesome answer about that amazing resource I’ll add another amazing resource that I love so much!
      Brooke Romney. I follow her on instagram and get her emails and always feel uplifted and empowered after reading her stuff. She has great resources, especially for parenting teens, a phase I’m in, but she also has great resources for parenting in general. I especially love her Modern Manners books for teens and kids!! I have all 3 versions. I keep one near the kitchen table so we can flip to the next one each week, the kids can read it and get awesome advice from someone who isn’t their parent, and we can talk about it casually.
      52 Modern Manners for Kids https://a.co/d/bK8mQA4

      • ritu
        2551

        Probably controversial but I’m not a huge fan of self-proclaimed experts who claim to have the one true answer on how to raise kids. I prefer to lean on the village and get a lot of different opinions. I love online parenting forums and groups - I’ve found super helpful posts on reddit and berkeley parents network and my neighborhood facebook group, and it’s particularly useful when there are discussions on those posts, with people arguing different viewpoints and pros/cons of various approaches.
        https://www.reddit.com/r/Parenting

        The only times I looked to an “official authority” source was when I had very specific, almost technical, problems. For breastfeeding, I relied a ton on KellyMom (https://kellymom.com) and found it extremely useful. For potty training, I read through the Oh Crap book (https://a.co/d/eFafK1a) - that was pretty hit or miss - the methods in there didn’t always work, but some of the broader strokes around what not to do were helpful.

        • perla
          1702

          I am a big fan of Twelve Hours’ Sleep by Twelve Weeks Old: A Step-by-Step Plan for Baby Sleep Success https://a.co/d/8JcX5i0 (I know it’s a bit controversial). I also read the content from takin cara babies (but I think the book is better).

          Currently reading How to Raise an Adult https://a.co/d/hYlQPVg and finding it very insightful

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